Do you feel devalued and dishearten after you sleep with a guy you barely know—and you worry about contracting STDs? You went out with a new man.
You know nothing about him—but you hop into bed with him. You invited him into your home for a nightcap, maybe you drank too much, and before you know it, you succumbed to your inebriated animal instincts.
The next morning you cringe at your permissive, unladylike behavior. Did you do the wrong thing? Will you ever hear from him again? You try to salvage his opinion of you.
Holding out for a reasonable length of time makes a man want you more. Men are innately competitive. The chase intrigues, excites and motivates a man to pursue you.
Men want what they think they can't have.
But if you cave in for sex too soon, he may lose his original interest in you and his motivation for the chase. Men will tell you, there is something about a woman who makes a man wait. In the beginning a man wants to get you between the sheets.
You want to believe that your new man will remain committed to your relationship— after you have sex with him. The best time to develop trust for a man—and know that he is on the same relationship page—is PRIOR to sexual involvement.
When you sleep with a man, there is a relationship power shift. Before you sleep with him, you are whether you know it or not in control of the relationship and he will work hard to win your favor. You are in the catbird seat.
Your new man takes you to dinner, sends you flowers, texts and calls you frequently and surprises you with gifts. After you sleep with him, the power shifts to him.
Suddenly you want him and you need him and your relationship expectations kick in. If you sleep with on him the first date, you worry: Are you supposed to sleep with him on the second date? The problem lies within your low esteem issues and your unwillingness to hold out for a man who will love, respect and commit to you. Skip to main content. You did it again!
Does your promiscuity evoke feelings of embarrassment, guilt and remorse? Casual sex creates feelings of self-doubt and regret. You want to experience love, acceptance and intimacy with man.
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