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Sex between men is a beautiful, passionate, awesome thing. Do you want to try anal sex? Do you want to kiss, suck, rub, or touch? What do you try first?

Where do you begin?

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How do you keep yourself safe from sexually transmitted infections? These questions and more are covered here. Keep reading for 21 things to know before losing your gay virginity. My name is Alexander Cheves, and I am known by friends in the kink and leather community as Beastly. I am a sex-positive writer and blogger.

Like everything I write, the intent of this piece is to break down the stigmas surrounding the sex lives of gay men. Those who are sensitive to frank discussions about sex are invited to click elsewhere, but consider this: For all others, enjoy the slideshow.

And feel free to leave your own suggestions of sex and dating topics in the comments.

Photo by Jon Dean. This is a fact queer youth have to face: Men who have sex with men and transgender women are most at risk for HIV, and have high rates for other sexually transmitted infections too.

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It just means you need to be in a place in life where you can get routine STI testing — men who have sex with men should be tested for HIV and other STIs every months, minimum. It can be very difficult for teenagers to gain access to STI testing and treatment. You may even need your parents to drive you to the doctor. This can create some tough scenarios for young queer people who may not feel safe coming out to their parents.

Here is a resource to help you find STI testing centers.

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